DE not taken yet? Then have a 'Woe Box'* edition

[yakalskovich]

Okay, if the DE for today is not spoken for (if it is, drop me comment and I'll take down this one stat!), I'll grab it because I just had an idea. One or two of my own charries, actually, could really really use this.

Let's have a free-for-all advice column. Tag in pups (with their journals, or anonymously, or even with a journal (so you get the notifies) but saying 'Assume this is anonymous as XYZ would never ask such a thing under their own name'), and have them pose questions in that tag, conundrums, doubts or dilemmas of the kind one would ask an advice column. You know, along the lines of 'Halp my boyfriend is stuck in Asgard, and when he was on Earth recently, he didn't even send me an email let alone come and see me; admittedly he was saving the earth from giant flying mealworms and his own idiot little brother. But I could really use some hints as to how not to take this personally, because it hurts.' -- to take a charrie we don't have, AFAIK.

And then, people answer these questions either as themselves or as their charries -- extra kudos if different charries from the same mun advise diametrally opposing solutions.



* a 'Kummerkasten' (literally 'Woe Box') is both an anonymous complaints box and the inbox of an advice column in German. Now I was successful with 'Fremdschämen', I shall try and export another loanword... **grins**

Comments

[againsttherules]

Ok, HALP!

My father is a fairly highly ranked member of the US military. He's used to getting his way.

Mum divorced him a few years ago, and they met for the first time since the case yesterday. He tried to force her to stay with him, she refused, he started getting violent, I intervened, knocked him out, took him to his room.

What the shit do I do in the morning when he wakes up?

Oh, and just to cap this off, this was at my sisters wedding reception.

[monkeys_arecool]

So how do I fit in and become an awesome super hero? I'm the youngest one on my team and always get the easy jobs. Sometimes I just think they're humoring me to be honest.

Also, I think one of my team members is a little touched if you know what I mean. He keeps talking to himself. Which is fine, everyone does that right? But he argues with himself too. How can I tell if he's really insane or if it's something else?

[tobenormal]

How do I get more confident? There's this girl I like but I don't know if I'm confident enough for her.

[aleister_author]

Not when he wakes up. Do it now.

Order a few shots of Atlantean, a Pan Galactic Gargle Blaster and a funnel.

The hangover should buy you enough time to get away, maybe enough to move your relatives if they're willing to travel.

You might want to look into getting some drugs to see if you can shut down memory formation for the past few hours too. This isn't territory where you're strong, why give him an advantage?

[1nv1nc1ble]

Dude, I know what you mean. Not with the team, but my dad's been in the business for 20 years, and I just put on the suit three months ago. Living up to being the son of Omni-Man is hard.

I think that you need to have some sort of solo work. Get out and patrol on your own, without anyone looking over your shoulder. You'll make mistakes, because everyone does, but they'll be your mistakes, and you can work through them without anyone laughing at you. You know, unless you really screw up....

Anyway, getting out on your own can help you figure out what you can do, without relying on anybody else. Then you can step up and hold your own, with confidence in your own powers.

As for your team mate, maybe you should ask him about it? Better to find out what's going on before the shooting starts than to have him turn out to be crazy and turn on you in a fight.

[gavin62truck]

I see dead people. It sucks. Wtf should I do?

[gavin62truck]

There must be something you're good at. Your job, a sport, something artistic, whatever. Doesn't matter, as long as you take pride in whatever it is that makes you feel awesome. Think about how goddamn good you are at it, and forget about the other things that make you feel less than awesome (you can work on those later). Carry that over into how you present yourself with this girl. Don't overdo it. Some chicks actually like a bit of shyness. They think it's cute.

[tobenormal]

That's...remarkable practical. I will have to think about it. Thank you.

[monkeys_arecool]

I totally get what you're saying about getting out on my own but I'm only like 13 so that will have to wait. Of course I now have a magic bar to explore so maybe I can do some of the things you mention here right?

As to the crazy guy, I think about it. So far it's just weird and I don't think he's dangerous.

[kd7sov]

Close your eyes?

More seriously, it depends. I've heard of worlds where the more you acknowledge you can see them, the more they bother you; I've also heard of worlds where they basically keep to themselves, apart from being visible to some people. What you want to do depends on what happens when you do something.

[gavin62truck]

It was either that or hire a hooker to pretend to be your girlfriend so this chick you likes gets jealous. Less practical, more expensive, requires lying skills, results may vary.

Good luck!

[tobenormal]

[With some serious blushing]

I couldn't do that!

[sky_child]

you should just ask! maybe she already likes you!

[sky_child]

um...tell them to leave you alone??

[sky_child]

or maybe you should talk to them! maybe they just want to make friends, since...they're dead...i guess they can't make many friends...

[sky_child]

you should try taking on some jobs yourself, you know if nobody's doing them, or you see it needs to be done, then you can show them what you're capable of!

as for that guy...uh...i-i dunno, is it a...problem? like, does it keep him from being good at his job?

[thesupersmeller]

(Only Gus for this one since he so obviously needs help. Lots of help.)

So, uh... I've been best friends with this guy for pretty much my whole life - we're kind of connected at the hip. At least we were before he hooked up with his dream girl. Now, they're all happy and I'm kind of alone. I'm trying to get out there and meet women (and hopefully get to know them better) but in the process I think I may have sold my soul to the Devil. So... uh...

1) How do I get over losing my BFF? I'm totally cool with him & Juliet (they're awesome separate and together) but I don't even know what to do with myself half the time when he's not here.

2) How do I meet quality women that aren't going to be bad for me and actually want a stable, steady pretty normal dude to date? Is there like a mailing list? Facebook group?

3) Anyone know how to tell the Devil you want to see other people because you fear for your immortal soul?

[sky_child]

1. you should try a hobby! that always helps whenever i'm not around zelda!

2. um. what's a facebook?

3. ummmmmmmm

[balancingminds]

Trust yourself and know that she likes you already.

[makesthings]

Ghosts or the actual Dead?

[tobenormal]

Isn't that cheating?

[tobenormal]

I don't know if I could do that. What if she doesn't like me? Then things would all weird. Or what if it's all a joke? It's happened before.

[balancingminds]

No, I don't read my sisters mind, but all you have to do is look at the two of you to see the attraction's mutual. Give yourself permission to fail and figure things out, you're not alone, Hank.

(OOC: I kind of want this conversation to happen in character now. As you know Hank would ask for advice and try to figure things out.)

[sky_child]

you never know unless you try :\

[tobenormal]

Agreed but I think it would have to wait until they're at the mansion as Hank doesn't know Charles enough yet.