Thurlow doesn't much care what society at large thinks of them, so they don't make much effort to hide their dysfunction or to follow social mores that they don't like. Then eventually they stir up too much scandal to go about their business, and have to go hide in the tomb-colonies until it blows over. (Their fondness for indulging in almost every form of hedonism the Neath offers does not help.) On the smaller scale of interpersonal interaction, though, they're quite good at reading people and gauging the effect they're having on their audience. They're not likely to be insensitive by accident, unless they're too out of it to recognise the problem.

Aradia, as I've mentioned on previous occasions, just sort of does her own thing. She doesn't give a toss what society thinks of her, but she's not too oblivious to social cues. Except when it concerns death, which she has an odd (some might say warped...) perspective on because of how much time she spent being dead. That, and I'm not convinced her emotional landscape is quite back to normal, after the time she spent having no emotional landscape to speak of as a ghost and then a robot.