Daily Entertainment: It's 3:20am, I don't have a snappy title for this one

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Posting early because today is a Bank Holiday Monday and I *always* forget about DEs on Bank Holiday Mondays...

Is your pup a hugger? Are they okay with hugs if offered but won't initiate, or would they just rather... not at all, thanks? Any reasons why?




(Happy late May Bank Holiday, all!)

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[innerbrat]

My pups are SUCH huggers. But so many of them are SO REPRESSED they dun' even know it!

Dinah will hug a stranger if they look annoyed that the bar got their coffee wrong. She's incredibly physical and every emotionally intelligent (someone in the stable has got to be) and has a pretty good read on body language to tell her if hugs are welcome. She gives AMAZING hugs, and once you're in her inner circle, your personal space is GONE.

Dick is a hugger who doesn't know he's a hugger. The circus and the Graysons were tactile, physical people but his current family... aren't. So if he thinks you need a hug, he'll offer one, but he's actually quite good at dealing without hugs. He can interpret the little things quite well and can find comfort in what is offered.

Simba can hug? But he's much more likely to rub up against you and just barrel you to the ground in Lion-love. This is what hugging is, right?

Will wouldn't know what to do if you hugged him. It's weird, please don't.

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Obi-Wan - DOESN'T HUG ENOUGH. He's probably hugged one person in his life & that was Satine. His way of touching people is through the Force and physical contact is secondary. Even then, thanks to fucked-up Jedi training, he doesn't express comfort or love as much as he SHOULD and just assumes everyone he loves knows he loves them. BECAUSE HE'S AN IDIOT.
Opinion: The whole Saga would have gone a lot differently if Obi-Wan had been a hugger.

Fives doesn't hug so much as do that thing of a touch on the arm here, a hand on the opposite shoulder there, a mutual shoulder-pat when reuniting with brothers he hasn't seen a while, that sort of thing. I assume clones are very tactile and physical, but it's tied a little bit into a toxic masculinity picked up from their Bounty-Hunter teachers and they generally don't see many other people hugging.

Sefton is One Hell of a hugger, but none of his friends are, and also he's internalised so much homophobia he doesn't want to be a stereotype. See also: the toxic masculinity of spending so much time undercover in gang culture, and also of being relentlessly bullied as a kid. He will hug his boyfriend and he is starting to get into a place where he'd hug his female colleague, except Ross is NOT a hugger.

[possible other app] is defintely not a hugger. But they SHOULD be. And they need one specific hug in question, but are going to have to earn it.

[4th5]

How could I forget this one?

Runner 5 does not initiate hugs. That's too close to intiating social interaction and they don't do that. They also likely give off 'don't hug me' vibes to many people. But they still get and are happy to receive hugs from one or two people around Abel Township.

[lonesome_moonflower]

I suspect casual hugging is pretty rare for trolls like Aradia and Cirava, because if you hug someone you don't absolutely trust you might get stabbed. I think Aradia's still a hugger though, since she pushed through the perpetual apathy inflicted by being dead to give Sollux (a quadrantmate, of some sort, and a close friend besides) a hug when she wasn't going to see him for a while and gave him good reason to think she was permanently dead. Deader. Double dead? I'm getting off-topic. Cirava seems to enjoy being in a friend's personal bubble but not necessarily touch so much as proximity; they'd probably only offer hugs if they could manage to do it with an air of semi-ironic detachment, but they'd accept one that seemed to be sincerely offered.

Bastion accepts hugs but absolutely will not initiate them. They would be surprised if anybody wanted a hug from them, being a big boxy robot with armor plating and weapons sticking out and a fearsome reputation as a killer robot back in their world. Having only one hug-capable arm (they're not using their gun arm for hugs) doesn't help either.

Thurlow doesn't like having people in their personal space where they can notice things about them, and anyway they're from Victorian England where any physical contact more intimate than a handshake is shockingly improper. (Neathy London isn't much better about that than Surface England, and has the additional bonus that pretty much anyone can be suspected of having a romantic affair with anyone else if they get too touchy-feely, since the Masters of the Bazaar abolished heteronormativity.) They actually will accept hugs from close friends, but from anyone else they wouldn't appreciate it.

Wilson is also pretty uptight personally and comes from a culture where you don't just hug people you barely know. That, and he's not very emotionally intelligent, so I don't think he'd pick up that hugs would be helpful to cheer someone up unless he was explicitly prompted to do it.

Wormwood is eager for friendship and affection and even has a canonical quote asking for hugs... specifically in their reskin where they're a cactus person. From this I can conclude that Wormwood's a hugger, but not great at intuiting whether the other person actually wants to hug, although at least they're polite enough to ask first instead of just doing it.

[darkeryetdarker]

Gaster is not generally a hugger, though he may be slightly touched-starved after his time in the Void. Neither are Snufkin or Urania.

Phoenix, however, is absolutely a hugger, though not as much during the Seven Year Gap. (Except for Trucy.)

[magnus_archivist]

Jon won't often initiate hugs - he was an only child, brought up by his grandmother who wasn't really super tactile in her affection, and who has learned the hard way as an adult that being more tactile with other adults without a Lot of Undue Discussion leads to... frankly embarrassing misunderstandings as then people expect other tactile things because they had an entirely different set of expectations of what follows a good cuddle and of course you know that but you kinda forgot because it didn't seem important but WHOOPS guess it is for other people so that's a thing.

But it's not that he doesn't like hugs. Rather the opposite. Hugs are good.

Cecil is noooot a hugger. It's just not his jam. Which some people, Steve Carlsburg, just don't seem to understand.

Klaus is a touch-starved mess who doesn't know how the hell to initiate a hug without it being flirty but hugs are great. Bring on the hugs, baby.

[bjornwilde]

Yet again we have similar answers for our TUA boys. Wheee?

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MOLLY WILL HUG THE PAIR OF THEM, YOU SEE IF SHE WON'T




(I mean, she's already hugged Klaus. And will again. STILL.)

[bjornwilde]

Ben would likely freeze up the first few times but end up melting.

[bjornwilde]

Ahsoka is very much a huggy person but doesn't really figure that out until after the Clone Wars. She is okay with those who need to hug or ask for hugs before she realizes she likes them. Or maybe it's more she decides it's okay for her to ask for them herself?

Sabine isn't shown hugging very often. In fact I don't think we see her hug until her brother is introduced or she is saying goodbye to those she deems family. I'm taking this to mean she feels hugs are for family. I think she would accept a hug from a friend without initiating one but would tense up if a stranger hugged her.

Jess is a total hugger and often will touch those she cares about. Just little hints that they are really there. She will only initiate hugs from those she trusts or feels secure with, as hugs to leave you vulnerable. I think she would back away from someone she didn't know who wanted a hug unless they were a kid or in obvious emotional distress.

Viv is not a hugger, though she could be! Mostly it's because she doesn't quite parse physical touch as being an emotional bond sort of thing.

Tybalt is a hugger but can't really display this side of himself given he is a king of cats and it would be too easy to attack him if he were hugging.

Alustin is a complete hugger, though his culture doesn't seem to encourage it? I don't remember hugging being mentioned much in the books but he dates likes a mad man, so hugs seem something he'd be into. He is smart and aware enough to know when a hug would be welcome though.

Ben wants hugs but has been trained not to give in to physical intimacy. Thanks, Reginald!

Dog doesn't really need this whole physical touch thing that mortals do but they enjoy it so much, who is she to deny them?

[angry_friendship_wolf]

Yamato craves physical affection, so he actually is a big hugger and likes being hugged, but only from people he actually knows and is friends with already. He generally avoids physical contact with people he doesn't know and like altogether, and then switches to being quite touchy-feely once he starts feeling affectionate towards them.

As with a lot of stuff with Yamato, he basically parallels wolves in this regard: Skittish, stand-offish, and keen on personal space with people he doesn't know, cuddly and friendly with people he does.